This is a book review of Working With You Is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work, written by Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster. Crowley is a psychotherapist, published author, educator and public speaker. Elster is an author and a nationally recognized business consultant. Their book teaches how you can unhook from upsetting situations in dealing with people around you. It provides guidelines in the area of professional fulfillment through self-awareness and self-management. Most people will relate to the situations discussed in this book. I found the book provided some good guidelines in dealing with a difficult co-worker or boss as there’s usually one in every business setting.

These business settings could be anything from the office to the shop floor. With almost every job, there is a culture that you have to get accumulated to. But tread carefully when you first arrive because these business relationships can positively or negatively affect your job efficiency. A friend of mine told me that he has had two different jobs on the end of the culture spectrum. The first job he had was at a repair shop ( He loved the job, great people, great leadership and a great culture. Unfortunately he had to leave that job because of personal issues at home. Once those issues had been solved, he had to find another job since employment was so competitive with the prior job. He was finally able to find a job, but now he consistently complains about the culture. He points out the lack of directional leadership, as well as the fact that many of his co-workers practice the finger pointing mentality. By finger pointing he says that it seems that people are more concerned with pointing the blame, and less concerned with quickly solving the issue. That was a great example of how the culture of the work environment can affect your life both inside and outside the office.
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